Wednesday, June 13, 2012

The Dating Game



Dating can be exciting and interesting for everyone involved, but just remember that it's all just a big sexy gameshow. If you don't play by your own rules, you'll find yourself playing by somebody else's. Here's some first date coaching that any personality type can run with. Keep it simple for the win! 

Who
The first date is about meeting and getting to know a little bit about somebody new. Nothing more, nothing less, darlings. Dating freaks everyone out a little, so cut each other some slack. Take a deep breath. Relax. Smile. What would you like to know about this person? Here's your chance to find out! Ask questions and listen! Flirt and have fun.

What
We're going on a first date here, not picking out wedding china. That said, people have all sorts of individually crazy ideas about how dating works, so just try to be aware and get a sense of whether somebody's sizing you up as “Ms. Right” or “Ms. Right Now,” and vice-versa. Perspective.

Where
An ideal first date includes hanging out in a casual public place where you can hear well enough to have a decent conversation. Small talk makes or breaks a first date! Watch the body language. Choose a comfortable place and just pay attention to each other for a little while. Great first date zones: coffee shops and small restaurants. Awkward first date zones: loud bars and concerts.

When
Pick about a two hour window of time for a first date. You want to have a clear time frame planned ahead, and stick to it. If all goes well, you'll soon have a second date. If all goes to hell, there's a definite escape route!

Why
There are benefits to having ideas about what kind of person you hope to meet, how you like to be treated, and knowing and respecting your own boundaries. Clarify your own winning scenarios ahead of time. You're way more likely to recognize somebody who plays a similar game and respects your rules when you take a moment to know thyself.

So there you have it. The main objective: simply gather enough information to determine whether you'd like to hang out with this person again, et voila! First date achieved. Have fun, darlings!

Feel free to email CaptainSexKitten@gmail.com if you have any questions about dating. It's tricky like a puzzle, I know

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